A place for my random thoughts, anecdotes and reflections of what I see and experience in this lifetime.

Friday, March 04, 2011

Observations

Some observations of recent times:

Some people have close-knit families, others do not. Those that do often spend most public holidays together each year by tradition, but sometimes wish that they could freely do something else with other people without offending their own families. If they break tradition, even in the smallest of ways, means the whole family and extended family will ignore them for the rest of the year if not longer.
For some that do not have close-knit families, often wish they did. They would like a sense of tradition in their lives where they can share and hang with their families rather than going to work or being alone every Christmas. Some will have family but can freely choose whether to see them or not, as they prefer to live as carefree and independent as possible. But at the end of the day, bitterness may still set in, even though that was the choice they made in the first place.

Some couples do not plan to have children, but then somehow manage to keep having children one after the other. Others plan to have children and feel truly blessed when their prayers are answered. Others plan to have children but it is disappointment after disappointment after disappointment. Then those people that have found it easy think "what can be so hard about this? I didn't find it difficult so why should they?' Those that are disappointed find it unhelpful when comments such as 'you've been married for over 10 years now, surely it must be time for you to start having kids. What's taking you so long? You better start soon otherwise it will be too late'. (OUCH!!) It's times like this that it's better to not say anything at all. 

Some people unknowingly become 'rich' due to certain circumstances arising, others still put in their lotto tickets every week to win that elusive jackpot so as to retire comfortably. Working in a finance industry it amazes me to witness that most people that religiously so to speak, put their syndicates in, often say 'when I win lotto, that will be the day I will quit my job as I will be pretty well set for the rest of my life.' Question is................. when you eventually have the money to buy and do whatever you want, will that truly please you and satisfy your needs for the rest of your life and the next?

What would happen if God decided that you were to not see your family ever again, not to have alot of money and not to have children ever?

However, what would you think if God decided that you were to not see your family ever again, not to have alot of money and not to have children ever...................because that is He had planned for you all along, and He promises that your life will be even more blessed because of it?

6 comments:

Josh said...

Re: your first part

Most of us don't really have a choice what kind of family we are born into (a close knit family, a close family friends group, bad family relationships, etc.) which means that most of us don't really have a choice how those things pan out in our early decades.

I just find that people will assume that your thoughts on family are the same as the reality (i.e. if my family is not close, people will assume that I am not a family person) - and I think that is an unfair judgement on that person. I think that most people would love to have a close group of family or family friends but just aren't able to have that because of the make-up of the family, separation from family in other places of the world, or how their parents are living life. I just wish people didn't come to conclusions based on shallow facts.

Jan said...

May I clarify that these observations are not purely mine, but actually a conglomeration of a vast number of people whom I have met up with, spoken with and discussed these issues with over the past couple of months, both believers and non-believers.

I must agree on the shallow aspect. Society in general has become so shallow that people would rather be spoonfed information and watch shows and movies that require little or no thinking, rather than tackling the hard and often important issues head-on and questioning everything that is being said and reported.

Josh said...

we are the only surviving bloggers muahahaha - maybe we have too much time (I doubt it...)

Novelty Pens said...

We have no choice in where we begin, but the path we take and where we finish are all based on the choices we make.

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